7 Ways to Recover When the Election Result Is Not What You Hoped For

When things happen in the world that shake our sense of safety, our levels of adrenaline skyrockets leaving us stressed and feeling out of control.

  1. The first thing to do is breathe. Basically, deep breathing and adrenaline can’t co-exist in the same body as it triggers the release of a neurotransmitter (acetylcholine) that calms you down and most importantly, stops your thoughts from racing so you can think straight.
  2. Next, think about what you can and cannot control and move your focus to make changes to things you do have control over. You can influence your children to have good morals and to treat women or people who are different from themselves well. You can go through life following your own inner compass about how to treat people.
  3. Stress often makes us focus on the negative and ignore the positives in our lives. Widen the lens you are looking through. You may be disappointed at the moment but there are still many really good things in the world and your life.  Your life is more than this one moment.
  4. Do a random act of kindness to make yourself and someone else feel better.
  5. Hug the ones you love. A good hug is the fastest way for you to get oxytocin flowing in your body. This “love drug” calms your nervous system and boosts positive emotions.
  6. Spend time with people who share your same value system. Vent about your feelings with like-minded people  and buffer yourself by knowing that there are other people who are feeling the same way you do.
  7. Most importantly, be kind to yourself and give yourself the time to process your feelings and do whatever makes you happy in this moment and to others so they know that there are people out there who care.

 

Overcoming Addiction

Addictions always serve a need. For many, it’s a basic emotional need of coming to terms with self-worth and developing a strong sense of self. And the best thing you can possibly do is take action!

  • Find the courage to determine what you need that you’re not getting.
  • List three things that you feel you’re running from in your life. What are you using your addictions to avoid? Get to the heart of the matter.
  • You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. Get real with yourself. Ask the tough questions — and listen closely to your answers.
  • Behave your way to success. Instead of being afraid to be a successful person, learn how to own those positive feelings.
  • Work on how to present yourself on an “even-up” basis with the world. How can you know if you can stand on your own without the crutch of your addiction unless you remove it?
  • Stop running. You can run but you can’t hide. Stop putting your own happiness off until tomorrow.

Remember, you don’t ever break a habit. If you want to get rid of bad behavior, you have to replace it with something positive — something that will make you stronger instead of weaker. Work on identifying positive behaviors that would make good replacements for your addictions.